Marriage at a very younge age is pretty common for both Men and Women in INDIA. But, the so called reasons to be getting into marriage vary over a quite vast line of mindsets across the Highly Diversified Country like INDIA.
I might not cover all the type and sub types but, will sure be reporting analysing through much of my real life experiences.
Note: The examples I describe might come very close to many individuals which was not intensional but, quite coincidence.
The types used are mostly viewed from the arriange marriage angle as love marriage types were complex to explain.
1. Married because they "Don't have anything els to do in LIFE"
Not much of the youth comes into the category and still this thing happens in, mostly to the Women. Indian women are grown with a well planted seed of getting married right after their education. So, most of the female youth are very much ready to get married in their Grads n PGrads. Ofcource the ways like Love, Arranged, Forceful, marriges do differ the final outcome is getting married at very young age.
2. Married because they are "Ready to Settle in LIFE". It is still quite a confused terms of using the words 'settled in life' ment to me. But, to most people getting settled is termed as obtaining a source of income as a security to get their heir married. ComeOn! Getting a job is not enough to make a person ready to deal with a sudden Responsibility of taking care of a different person altogether.
Marriages like this arent a Fad. Hence atleast hope it wont make peoples lives a hell.
3. Entering into "Marriage for MONEY". This is heck of Sin.
Parents do want to get their son or daughter into a better place. But, this aint the best way. Getting into a bond for life commited to hold a hand in all the odds of life worth more than the currency made by man. It worth lots of love and care for each other.
4. "Sacrificing LIFE in the name of Power"
This doesn't look as good as it sounds, As, in this case people are getting married because of pressure of a few selfish people who has the lust for the power /position/ fame. Even though it sounds like the above, it actually defers as this will not always lead to the better life of either of the couple.
5. "Marriage for D-E-A-T-H". Yeah, it is what it sounds like. People in INDIA are quite aware of what this is, they have seen this all across theur lifes. People will get married because of the expected death of someone probably from one, sometimes both of the families of the couple.
The reason is always 'The LAST WISH', of the person on death bed. Either its a Old family member of theirs or an ill guy with lots of property named after the person involving the marriage as a condition to get married. Either way its a BAD but Profitable move.
6. Married to "Cope up with the SCHEDULE of LIFE". Parents in INDIA do have plan for their children's life. Its not always male who has to suffer in this case. But, women are very quite less coz parents have plans only till marriage.
In middle class business communities Men usually get the pressure to get married because it 'getting late'. Late for what? Ofcourse they do have answers on their tongue tips as they are prepared with a plan for 'The Happy Life'. These marriages are too funny to visit as one or both of the couple on the dias have no idea of what they doing. So, they act just like it is a big Birthday like cermony where they find a so called partner to stand next to them and pose for pictures and selfies.
I might miss many of the other types, which I wish to update soon.
Please share your views and experiences about these 'Typical Types' of marriages in the comments section. ThankVou
I might not cover all the type and sub types but, will sure be reporting analysing through much of my real life experiences.
Note: The examples I describe might come very close to many individuals which was not intensional but, quite coincidence.
The types used are mostly viewed from the arriange marriage angle as love marriage types were complex to explain.
1. Married because they "Don't have anything els to do in LIFE"
Not much of the youth comes into the category and still this thing happens in, mostly to the Women. Indian women are grown with a well planted seed of getting married right after their education. So, most of the female youth are very much ready to get married in their Grads n PGrads. Ofcource the ways like Love, Arranged, Forceful, marriges do differ the final outcome is getting married at very young age.
2. Married because they are "Ready to Settle in LIFE". It is still quite a confused terms of using the words 'settled in life' ment to me. But, to most people getting settled is termed as obtaining a source of income as a security to get their heir married. ComeOn! Getting a job is not enough to make a person ready to deal with a sudden Responsibility of taking care of a different person altogether.
Marriages like this arent a Fad. Hence atleast hope it wont make peoples lives a hell.
3. Entering into "Marriage for MONEY". This is heck of Sin.
Parents do want to get their son or daughter into a better place. But, this aint the best way. Getting into a bond for life commited to hold a hand in all the odds of life worth more than the currency made by man. It worth lots of love and care for each other.
4. "Sacrificing LIFE in the name of Power"
This doesn't look as good as it sounds, As, in this case people are getting married because of pressure of a few selfish people who has the lust for the power /position/ fame. Even though it sounds like the above, it actually defers as this will not always lead to the better life of either of the couple.
5. "Marriage for D-E-A-T-H". Yeah, it is what it sounds like. People in INDIA are quite aware of what this is, they have seen this all across theur lifes. People will get married because of the expected death of someone probably from one, sometimes both of the families of the couple.
The reason is always 'The LAST WISH', of the person on death bed. Either its a Old family member of theirs or an ill guy with lots of property named after the person involving the marriage as a condition to get married. Either way its a BAD but Profitable move.
6. Married to "Cope up with the SCHEDULE of LIFE". Parents in INDIA do have plan for their children's life. Its not always male who has to suffer in this case. But, women are very quite less coz parents have plans only till marriage.
In middle class business communities Men usually get the pressure to get married because it 'getting late'. Late for what? Ofcourse they do have answers on their tongue tips as they are prepared with a plan for 'The Happy Life'. These marriages are too funny to visit as one or both of the couple on the dias have no idea of what they doing. So, they act just like it is a big Birthday like cermony where they find a so called partner to stand next to them and pose for pictures and selfies.
I might miss many of the other types, which I wish to update soon.
Please share your views and experiences about these 'Typical Types' of marriages in the comments section. ThankVou
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